The First Truth

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 I have been thinking of doing a blog for a while now, finally got to the point where I'm making my first post. However, I am too scared to attach my real name to my own truths probably because I don't want to hurt my family. Many of the truths I want to share are a direct result of my childhood and how I was raised. No, it's not horrific stories of abuse or anything of that kind. It is what one would consider a "normal" childhood, the eldest child of two born into a loving marriage at the time. Conservative church-going family where we spoke about all the good things in life and pray away the bad. 

Sex was something we didn't speak about because you were going to abstain from it. By the time you get married and are "allowed" to have sex someone will enlighten you of all the ins and outs of sex, no pun intended. 

Mental health like depression, anxiety, PTSD, suicidal thoughts - taboo. You just needed to get closer to God and get over it. It was all in your head. Of course, once my parents got a divorce (shocker, right?) I was thrown into the deep end of mental health issues within my family that I had no idea existed because no one talked about it.

Dating wasn't something you do unless you were sure the two of you are going to get married. Ridiculous, how do you know in today's world that you want to marry someone at the age of 18?? Oh, did I mention that I got my first kiss at the tender age of 19? yes, I was that "good girl" growing up. 

So this isn't a rendition of my tumultuous teenage years it's more a journey through my early adult life after university, after all the parties (yes, I went down that road) to where things started quieting down and I needed to live with myself and work through all my shit. 

The times I had to make decisions based on my beliefs, not the ones I was raised with but the beliefs I chose for myself. Guess what? I didn't know what I believed in anymore and this is where the truth becomes ugly and real. 

This blog will be like Life you never know what's coming up next but we'll roll with the punches. 

I hope you will come back and read some more. 



Anonymous (for now)


Location: Western Cape, South Africa

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